Saturday, June 28, 2008

Enlightenment PART TWO . . . immediately following Part One

Who knew? I didn't.
Paintings by the artist Dale Chihuly.



After I had a zen clarification of both my prejudices toward poodle trees (I now call them a form of bonsai) and my lack of knowledge of Japanese gardening in general, I headed down the path to the de Young.

The De Young is a newish museum in Golden Gate Park. The building is a metal trapezoidal group of wedges that house a variety of collections from contemporary to historical and anthropological art. What's not to love? But I was there to see a show of Ruby's pal and famed glass artist Dale Chihuly. This is where my journey begins.

Having lived in Seattle, which is this artist's stomping ground, I knew this artist's work. It was at our museum, and in a lot of other places. around town. The man is a household name. His art is recognizable by most and, well, I thought I knew it.

I knew nothing.

Walking down into the depths of the museum along a long long stone stairway lit by a sloping sliver of the glassed in Fern court, I was slowly submerged myself into dimness. The room at the bottom of the stairs that opens into the exhibit was very dark, almost black. I turned the corner and came upon the first installation.


The sculpture, a collection of glass drops, was self illuminated. They were created by standing on ladders an letting the molten glass trail down to and collect on the floor. Then neon was added. It was exhibited in the dark with blackened mirrors. This is art, now I see.

The next room was hung with big fluted disk of color, made in tribute of ancient Persian glass work, which the artist admits he had never seen. These looked more like the Chihuly I knew, more bowl-like, but the massing of them, the way they were hung in the room, and the artistry of the lighting were all breath-taking.

But it was the next room that really was the bell chime to awaken my conscience. First one wall is covered with Pendelton trade blankets. The other wall is covered with native american woven baskets. Then you notice that there are glass vessels interspersed with the woven pieces. A large collection of glass is displayed on a platform in the middle of the room. The patterns and colors of the Northwest coast native art is echoed in Chihuly's work. Writing on the wall explains how the artist was influenced by seeing a collection of baskets that came out of storage at a museum and were distorted by storage.


The fusion of form and color and textures was a clarifying moment for me. I started to see.

The rest of the show included a series of installations. Two old boats full of glass spheres which echoed old fishing floats. Vegetative forms clustered in gardens, Glass ceilings lighted from above that gave the feeling of being under the water of flower covered pond.



Learning that Chihuly was as much performance artist as glass artist was a moment of clarity that enabled me to better see what this artist does, and why he's so well respected.

Nothing like a museum that does what it's supposed to do. Inspire, teach, shock and awe. I thank my angel/mentor/spirit guide RZM for leading me there.

What I thought I knew, I didn't know at all. This old dog, learned a new trick.

- - - David

Friday, June 27, 2008

Western Enlightenment . . . PART ONE


I left the hotel at 8:30 yesterday morning and with no cable cars in sight was forced to take a bus, a Muni #5 that is, heading west to Golden Gate Park.

With Brian in meeting and out of the picture I was free to go museum touring. Brian will pout if I try and expose him to things like rooms full of Monets in Paris, so I've learned to separate this part of my life from his.

I was on my way to the de Young, The architecutrual wonder in the park that houses some of this city's art. The bus ride was fun and quick and I found myself standing in front of the gated de Young, a half an hour before it opened.

Fated, I headed to the Japanese Tea Garden, which is right "next door", and just happens to open 30 minutes before the museum.

If you've never been, go. It's a fine fine place that will quietly begin to teach you all you need to know about Japanese garden design. The paths lead you up, down, here, there, forcing you to slow down and see. It's a bit of manipulation, virtually a path to enlightenment, but it works.

So there I was, walking through a place I had been before, seen already, done that. I had time, so I walked the paths from all directions, multiple times. And I stopped viewing and started being there.

And it was then grasshopper, that enlightenment comes.

Many of the specimen plants I was sharing my time and admiration with suddenly stood out. They are artfully, meticulously pruned, coaxed into shapes meant to evoke memories and elicit distant landscapes. And the question mark appeared in my third eye. Could these be the same poodle shapes that suburbanite misuse? Are they related to those poor tortured plants that are forced to stand guard, lonely and isolated at the corners of uncountable ranch houses across america?

I see. The answer is no, and yes, and it depends, and just shut up oh high and mighty mister master. Give trees a chance.

Be quiet, do not judge. Be still, learn . . . enjoy.

Smile.

Enlightenment, however unexplainable, does that to me.

- - - David

Thursday, June 26, 2008

West Coast update, get me the editorial desk

My view from the back of the van-cab on the way into San Francisco.
Brian has the phone to his ear, as usual.


The flight into San Francisco was on time and flawless, for me at least. Brian was a real sweetie and let me take the upgrade while he rode with the brown back toting massses in steerage. I sipped orange juice while he scrounged for pretzels. I owe him one . . . or was this one of the ones he owed me?

The cab ride in was fast and scenic. The hotel is small, clean, hip and non-smoking. The entire city is non-smoking, except the sidewalks. This smoking sidewalk effect is heightened by the fires to the north and south of the city. It smells smoky, the air is hazy, it's like camping.

And, oh say can you see? Through the dawn's early light? The flags are flying around the city, the rainbow flag, that is. Even here in hetero-friendly business-people land, Macy's huge white building is festooned with the campy prideful colors.

I took this photo on our 6 AM walk around the neighborhood. One of the joys of flying in from the Eastern Time Zone, we're up before 5.

Luckily one of the neighborhood's Starbuck's opens just then. So it was us, the panhandlers, the trash trucks and the other EDT's out on the smoky pavement this morning.

Brian is in meetings from 7:15 until late afternoon.
So I, primed with tips and with a nose for news, am going exploring. I already did a little shopping in a quick hour spurt last evening, while Brian was, believe it or not, making phone calls. So check that off the list.

Let's see if I can figure out how to jump on a cable car. Do I wait until they stop? Do they stop? Is it a moving target challenge?

My mom used to be able to do trolley jumping in Detroit, back in the day.
Maybe the skill is genetic.


- - - David

Tuesday, June 24, 2008

Stay Tuned for Breaking News . . . . . . . . . . . from the West Coast


I will attempt to do something I've never done before . . .
update this blog while on the road.

The suspense is killing me.

- - - David

Sunday, June 22, 2008

Leaving on a jet plane . . . together!?!



Hold on to your hats.
David is going on a trip. He’s escaping ADRIAN!
Get OUT OF TOWN!

Brian, who is on his way to Denver as we speak, will be cashing in a travel voucher and taking me along on this next business trip, to SAN FRANCISCO. We’re leaving on Wednesday.

This has NOTHING . . . NOTHING to do with the Golden States new equitable marriage laws AND NOTHING, NOTHING to do with the flamBOYant/flamGRRLant parade scheduled for next weekend.

But it has everything to do with the food, the architecture and the museums that I’ll be able to use to fill up my time while Brian is toiling away trying to earn the money that I’ll be forced to give away to the deserving americans awaiting my arrival. And although I’ll be stowing away with him at The Serrano Hotel for a few nights, he’ll still have to find the cash to pay for the room for the weekend.

The small town guy I’ve become will be running rampant around the big city. There’s the Frida Kahlo show that just opened at SFMoMA, a few meals at Zuni Cafe, perchance a dinner at Chez Panisse.
Ruby highly recommends the Dale Chihuly show at de Young.
Donna urges we try out Canteen, The Ferry Plaza Building, a snack (or breakfast or lunch) at Boulette’s, Cowgirl Creamery, dinner at Spruce, Golden Gate State Park, the Exploratorium, a Climb on Mt. Tamalpais, and the Muir Woods.
Rima has cast out her info-net and, with the help of a “chic lesbian”, points us towards many a must-see. “Slow Club for any meal (brunch on weekends), Universal Cafe (near slow club), definitely Delfina, the Blue Plate, 2223 (in Castro), Bar Tartine, Colibri in theater district near union square (awesome mexican bistro), Cafe Claude (on Claude Lane, if you are downtown shopping), and the Cliff House Bistro (remodeled and awesome for good everything (food, bev, view!).”

Go ahead, live through ME for once, click on the above names for a little bite of San Francisco.

This is a lot to do, and a lot of food to do too. And I know, I know, we only have 4-1/2 days, so little time, so many places to go.

Please note, dearest readers, we are still taking itinerary suggestions. So put on your thinking caps. All entries will be appreciated. But you only have until Wednesday morning.

And also please note, I need to offer my sincere regrets and apologies to my sister, my bro-in-law and our smarty-pants nephew for missing a graduation party while we are away.

Please know that the supreme guilt I feel now will not be tempered, but only enhanced by every moment spent in paradise.

What if I bring you back a Frida t-shit?


- - - David

Wednesday, June 18, 2008

Big Day in the Family

Brian spent his birthday cheering on the Tigers in San Francisco.
My sister Karen spent her day lending another kind of support



June 18th is a big day in my family. Not only do we celebrate the birthdays of Isabella Rossellini and Sir James Paul McCartney but we also sing Stolat to my better half, Brian Laverne Brock and my supreme sister Karen Marie Staskowski Lunau, of the Motown Lunaus.

This year my two dear family members are both away from home. Brian is, where else, in California and Karen is in Ann Arbor just steps from Briarwood Mall, of all places. Brian is away on business as usual. Karen is at a University of Michigan parental unit orientation for my nephew, and her eldest, Jason.

So I must wish them both happiness from afar with phone calls and blog mentions. And so, I do.

With much love to two of my very favorite people, Happy Birthday.

Both of you have never looked younger.

- - - David.

Friday, June 13, 2008

Up and Into the Woods

Friday morning. Brian is taking the long weekend off. And we're off to get as close to heaven as I’ve ever been.

We will be packing the twins in the car and not much else and heading up into the woods. The tip of the mitten, near Indian River, the land of Leggs Inn . . . Mullett Lake that is, cold water, Michigan gold.

It’s time to go visit Ginny’s cottage. Gary and Ginny are already up there and we’ve finagled an invitation for a short visit. Well. Brian did. And this time we’re bringing Lucy. We hope to get her to jump in the lake.

For me it’s a very spiritual place. It’s what I love about Michigan; the birch and the white pines, the water, the sandy soil.

Part of me is already there.
Part of me always is.

Speaking of spiritual . . . I’ve got a little news for you.
But that will have to wait until we’re back from heaven.

- - - David

Wednesday, June 11, 2008

The Sunday in the Park




In April he turned 18 and on Sunday he graduated from High School. And although, for now, my baby sister’s eldest child is still sleeping in the same room he’s been in for 17 years, I know in my heart that he’s crossed the line into the future.

We drove up to Clinton Township on Saturday night. My sister Karen and my Brother (in-law) Steve met us at my mom’s for pizza. My niece Ali came by later for a visit. Jason was, of course, busy so we didn’t see him until Sunday morning when we were scheduled to leave for the graduation ceremonies. He walked in, dressed all in black with a red tie.

“Where’s Grannie, we gotta go” was his entry line.
“Why aren’t you wearing your cap and gown?” was all I said.

When I heard he was coming over to pick up my mom two minutes before his arrival I yelled to Brian to find the camera and I started to tear up. I imagined the little kid I held first in my thirty-something arms, then on my shoulders and sometimes, to my sisters horror, upside down and swinging by his feet.

His life flashed before my eyes. The water balloon fights that I won by hiding behind the gate with a loaded hose. The times he was young enough to tickle, when he was still young enough to yelp when I came into the room and run up and hug me. So when I heard he was coming over to pick up my mom, I thought of seeing him in his cap and gown and I started to cry. Then he walked in dressed in black. No cap, no gown. I was disappointed.

When we moved back to Michigan in Spring of 2000, Jason was just turning 10. He was still young enough to take for a haircut, to wait for his school bus, still young enough to teach him how to grow a tomato and how to eat Sorrel. The summer we spent at my parents’, before we found our house, we holed up down in their basement which doubled as a diamond for whiffle baseball. I was lucky to live in Seattle while my eldest niece Emily grew from 4 to 12. Now I was watching my nephew grow from 10 to 18.

The day had come for me to experience what parents do everyday, the passage of time through another. It hit my like a car meeting a brick wall.

The night before graduation, when everyone was in bed, I found a binder. It was a life book that Jason had put together for a school project. I paged through it and got a glimpse into the soul of my nephew. He wrote about a teacher, a coach, a friend who was in special education. He wrote how if he won a lottery he would give half of his money to a teacher who taught him through kindness and the other half to his Grannie who didn’t really need much anymore but deserved it anyway for taking such good care of him. He wrote about his mother’s light blue eyes and infinite love, the unfair ultimate horror of his grandfather’s Alzheimer’s, and what his dad taught him about the joy of sports.

During graduation day when he'd grunt and complain one minute and then come up from behind and put his arm around me the next, I thought of the binder, and saw the bright glint of his humanity seeping out of his 18 year old armor.

He graduated along with some 500 others at an outdoor amphitheater. It was a mad scene getting in. Jason was with us until we got inside the gates. We took turns getting my 84 year old mom to a seat. There were snapshots taken amid the hustle but I kept wanting it all to slow down. Like all the important rites we go through, I wanted time to stop so we could savor the moment. Of course it wouldn’t.

We got to our seats and time did stop, as it always does. Now we all sat quietly, except for the 17 year old in me which needed to entertain my niece, Ali. Eventually the crowd grew quiet, caps and gowns were seen on the ramps and Pomp and Circumstance began to play. 

“Look!” I said to my sister, “I have goose bumps”.

I looked over and my stoic sister was dabbing her eyes, which of course made me shut up, as it should have. But then I took a photo.

Marching in, Jason was all the way on the other side. Even with my zoom lens he was just one of many. Still, I was there with my family. My mom teared up too, “I wish your Dad was here” she said quietly. “He is here, right up there. I saw him in the scaffolding.” I told her. “It’s his wings causing all the wind.”

Jason took his seat, right up front. The only thing keeping him from a seat on the stage with the Summa was .01, one one-hundredth of a percent. My nephew graduated from High School with a 3.899 GPA. Because his school rounds down, (and not up, like the rest of us), Jay was merely honored with a medallion on a ribbon, a gold cord and the official distinction of Magna Cum Laude. And despite all the speeches and the wind blowing the caps of the graduates and their diplomas across the stage the whole time, he graduated and we yelled out his name and probably embarrassed him, not for the first or last time that day. I didn’t mind, I was so proud of him.

In my eyes he’s an auspicious miracle. Having Brian and me as uncles has apparently done no damage. He’s smart, he has amazing friends and he’s taller than any of us. Like all of our siblings' kids, looking on from afar as an uncle, I can see the brightness of their light and know in my heart that they will all grow to be wonderful adults. 

I am so very proud to be their uncle.

On Sunday, I saw a young man who has the whole world in front of him. All the joy, all the discovery, all the wonder the world has to offer.

I wish him all the happiness I have known and none of the pain. I wish him the world.

- - - Uncle David