WHY IS THERE SO MUCH “RELIGIOUS” HATRED?

I watched “8: the Mormon Proposition”. A documentary that follows the Mormon church’s work in the political campaign to pass Prop H8, and wondered. $22 million dollars and uncountable hours spent for Prop H8's passage. What was even more shocking, Bishops told their followers that they would be expelled for not contributing to the H* campaign, and that there was an expectation of each follower’s family contributing thousands of dollars and even traveling to another state for the campaign. Why? Why was the money and time better spent on taking away other’s civil rights, more important than feeding the hungry or clothing the homeless? I can not fathom their reasoning.

The catholic church is no less innocent of such hateful actions. They are famous for taking ark-loads of tax-deductible charitable donations, and using them for their anti-gay political plotting. I don’t think there are any anti-gay ballots in this country that aren’t funded catholics. Campaigns in Maine are funded by baskets passed in catholic masses in Arizona.

The Mormon Church continues to publicly say that they want to uplift the sinner and not bully them. I don’t hear of ANY attempts at their uplifting, I hear accounts of electro-aversion torture, I hear of families having to defend their gay children from physical and mental harm by sending them away, into hiding.

And even though I can’t personally abide a faith holding it’s followers to puritanically hetero rules, I understand that some may choose to be so restricted; BUT why be overly concerned with another not of their faith, someone who doesn’t belong to your chosen church?

Mostly I wonder, why is their so much hatred professed by people that call themselves “religious”?

How can faiths supposedly based on love teach so much hatred? And how can people who say they love me still follow behind these people?

- - - David

YOU COULD ALSO CALL HER FATE

There was a David

and a dog,

And Yo Yo is her name-o.

(Clap) - Y - o - Y - o !

(Clap) - Y - o - Y - o !

(Clap) - Y - o - Y - o !

And Yo Yo is her name-o

There I was, sitting at my desk thinking of my lost love, Anioł, the dog who left us on my mother’s birthday in 2008. (THAT in itself isn’t the strange part, I think of Anioł often.)

I opened up facebook, saw there was a note from Bunny Girl waiting for me in my inbox and clicked on it. “ Did you need another puppy girl, one of uncertain heritage?” the puppy was one of seven born to the dog of her niece and needed a home. I thought NO, I thought Maybe, I thought, B said NO. I wrote Jenn back, “I would LOVE a puppy. I am not allowed, at present, to get one. He who makes the bacon says no. Maybe you could plaster my wall with photos and we could guilt him into it? It's worth a try”

Jenn sent the photos. Any ball of young animal fluff is difficult not to love. For me, puppies in particular.

Whatever reservations of getting a new puppy immediately vanished. POOF

The pup's given name was Holly. She was born to a young mother who was a mix of Australian Shepard (recognized for their trainability, eagerness to please, highly successful use as a therapy dog, and, above all, companionship); Border Collie (often cited as the most intelligent of all dogs); and a little Chow (the ultimate guard dog). Her father was a mix of Husky (a loving, gentle, playful, willful, mischievous, happy-go-lucky dog) and German Shepard (strength, intelligence and the ultimate trainee). These are the breeds we know about, there may be more in there somewhere. These breeds are some of my all time favorites. A little bit of Weimaraner would have been nice, but I already have of house full of that.

Another of my favorite PEOPLE is a woman I met from W-S that also goes by the name of Holly. I wrote her and asked if the coincidence was a good sign or a bad omen. She replied. “Well...I guess that is a debatable topic . . . I say go for it. You'll be able to say stuff like, ‘HOLLY! Don't pee on the rug!!! ‘ " Did I mention that Holly always makes me laugh?

Jennifer drove me across the state to her niece’s house in South Haven, MI. Jacqui was waiting for us, waving at us from the end of the driveway. The parents were at the window, they seemed to be smiling. We walked into the house and met them, and the pups. I picked up the black fluff ball (dog) known as Holly.

She didn’t squeal, she didn’t squirm, she licked my nose. It was then that I noticed her markings: white chin, white chest and four white toes. She was marked like Anioł. I was a bit taken aback, it was like a reincarnation. I admit that my eyes may have welled up a little.

I would never get a puppy to “take the place” of a lost dog. That would be like setting the dog up for failure and very unfair. But I was not looking for a replacement. I didn’t even know that I was looking for a dog. It was like she came looking for me, (or at least she had sent scouts).

I may be naming her Yo Yo, but for me her middle name will alway be Fate.

~ “What fates impose, that men must needs abide; it boots not to resist both wind and tide.” ~

William Shakespeare

~ “Fate throws fortune, but not everyone catches.” ~

Polish Proverb

~ “Angels deliver Fate to our doorstep - and anywhere else it is needed. “ ~

Jessi Lane Adams

A Question: Why did I choose the name Yo Yo? Isn’t that a bit demeaning?

An Explanation: Growing up my favorite uncle, Uncle Eugene and his wife Aunt Dolly were the lights of my life. They entertained us kids like no other adult would. They were fun. We’d constantly go over their house in Detroit, we’d take memorable vacations where the major goal was not a destination but to be with them.

This aunt and uncle invariably referred to me, my brother, sister and all my many cousins with the same name “Yo Yo”. It wasn’t a put down, you could hear the love in their voices when they said it, it was a term of endearment. Since then I have always loved nick names, and that particular one is the zenith of all the names. So no, I am not making fun, putting down, or making her a joke. Quite the opposite. The word Anioł is Polish for angel. The name Yo Yo is David for love.

- - - David

The Great Pie Debate

There are many important issues in “Our World”

We drove out to Holland (MI). Some thought the reason was to help MomJudy move into her condo. Some believed the reason was to drop off our Wegman (print) to be reframed at the incredible Uptown Gallery. Others may have believed we were going there to get a sneak peek at the infamous “Tulip Time” blooms or to visit the historic lighthouse at sunset. I am here to come clean. We were there to settle the debate going on in my head (and elsewhere).

Which pizza is better Skiles Tavern or Fricano’s?

Both places are highly appreciated. Both have their followers. And both have qualities that make them contenders. I happened to have married into a family of Fricano’s-Fanatics and have ONLY been there, until recently that is.

We had an hour to spare before we met MomJudy and niece Audrey for dinner at, yes, Fricano’s. I suggested that we pop into Skiles for a quick beer and sample a pie (Skiles‘ entry pictured above). Then later we’d order similar toppings down the street and settle (in MY mind, Skiles fans) which pizza I preferred.

We ordered. We tasted. We became judgmental.

Skiles’ creation WAS less oily than it’s competition. I had heard this from followers. I noticed a prevailing flavor of mozzarella, which, being a cheese lover, I enjoyed. But I couldn’t taste the sausage, which at Fricano’s can over power a car, house or refrigerator. The oily-less quality also caused the crust to be a bit brittle.

We finished, drank up, and got to Fricano’s just in time for our companions arrival. 

B ordered the Sausage. We tasted. We thought hard. Our companions discussed weighty issues. We tried to listen. We did have a race to witness. (Fricano’s at right)

OUR DECISION

Skiles was good. The speed, pleasent staff, and speedy service couldn’t sway us though.

Fricano’s still gets our vote. But maybe trying to sway true RABID fanatics is hopeless anyway.

- - - David

Highly Extraordinary Events

He laughed at the idea of little miracles,

until he learned to accept them

Shortly after our dad died in 2005, my mother started seeing things. Not imagining apparitions but interpreting happenstance as miraculous. Frequently it was the rainbows.

Mom has little dangling glass crystals hanging in various windows which inevitably disperse sunshine, creating many dancing multicolored points of light in her house. If the optical phenomenon happens to hit a photo or a certain object, she is convinced dad is sending a message from the great beyond.

“Definitely a miracle, mom,” we usually say, “light would NEVER do that naturally.”

We giggle lightly, chuckle inwardly or guffaw together, not polite I admit but you have to be there AND be related, you’d understand. Especially since she sees the divine in other events; a broken wafer, an incidental thought, a sudden storm. We’ve have come to expect, accept, and even encourage her peculiar perceptions. But not believe in them.

Recently mom had serious heart surgery. “Serious” because I believe all medical heart manipulations are precarious. Not only did I get to watch her recovery at the hospital but I got to spend a lot of time with her at her house. Frankly, she not only needed our help but we were frightened at the idea of an 85 year old heart patient living alone and doing the right thing when it came to meds, frequent healthy eating and sporadic home care visits. Along with my saintly sister, nurse B and my bro-in-law, I became a care giver. We watched her travel from death’s door through a walk in the park to supervised self care.

In between meal planning and prep, med dispersion and light housekeeping I would wander around the house cleaning drawers cabinets and closets, grouping years of mementos and thinking. One frequent subject of thought was my mom’s speedy recovery. I had read and listened to many reports about how quickly people bounced back from having their chests spread opened, their veins ripped out of the legs and patched onto their heart, even having a pig’s heart valve sacrificed and transplanted onto a human. It’s another thing to witness the change in someone you love. It is extra-ordinary.

As I wandered and wondered I would often see little points of springtime sunlight refracted into small spectrums. I started to imagine my father telling me that he would take care of things, that everything was going to be OK. I took comfort. I began to rely on these other worldly reassurances. I started to think of the comforting spots of color as hugs from my dead father, as teeny miracles. It became a way of understanding my mother.

So maybe she takes comfort thinking my dad is still with her sometimes. So she truly believes he’s silently com

municating with her, continuing to take care of her, to watch out for her.

So what? 

And who’s to say he isn’t.

Miracles happen.

- - - David

The Lady in the Kitchen

This old house Spirit, imagination, farce, you decide. I’m not taking any chances.

Years ago, we had just moved into our current home, an 1850 fix up. My parents were visiting the house for the first time. My dad, who was already exhibiting the earlier signs of Alzheimer’s (bless his heart) was wandering around the new house a bit.

“There you are.” I said to him as he joined the room, “I was wondering where you were.’

“I was just talking to the nice lady in the kitchen.” he said to us.

As far as I knew the only ones is the house were now all together. We shrugged it off but I was a little excited at the idea of moving in with a ghost.

Ages have since past without any truly mysterious voices, knockings or gauzy sightings but she’s become our excuse for anything odd that occurs, especially in the kitchen (burned dinners included).

This morning I placed my coffee cup down on the island. Brian and I were both in the room, our backs happened to be turned to the cup.

“CLUNK”.

We turned, the mug was laying on its side in a little puddle of leftover coffee.

“What happened,” I asked, “I wasn’t anywhere near it.”

“Neither was I” answered B.

There she goes again. Nice AND naughty. We call her “Sassy”.

- - - David

Travel

It may seem that our travels are all about food

but there’s so much more.

But eating IS necessary

so we might as well eat local

We just returned from diving out to California with the grrrrls.

It started with the Saint Louis Arch (big!) and a homo slur written by some one (small) on our “do not disturb” sign in the same town.

We crossed Ohio, Indiana, Illinois, Missouri, Oklahoma, Texas, New Mexico, Utah, Nevada and on to Palm Springs, California. We stayed at the Coral Sands for a few days and then we started back. Arizona, New Mexico, back through Texas, then Louisiana, Mississippi, Tennessee, Kentucky, Ohio and ... HOME.

During the week there, the week back and the week in Palm Springs we were fully occupied with driving, site seeing, snap shot snapping and .... well ... snacking. We saw a lot and yes we ate, only succumbing to the ease of “Fast-Food” very few times. We posted most snaps on face book, and a lot of that was food.

To see our entire California Road trip “Roadfood©“ collection.

Please go to our Apple blog (the 3rd)

http://web.me.com/brockowskiofmichigan/Site/Blog/Blog.html

- - - - David

On the road trip again ... but

Going West

We're about to take off. Brian is jobless but interviewing, I'm, of course, free and the grrls, both young and old, have yet to disagree with the idea. But this time it's a little different. It's all been B's idea.

I'm prying myself off the sofa and just going along.

Yes, I am helping with the planning. I am charting and fine-tuning stop overs, searching for motels that take dogs, alerting far flung friends in our path and piping in with my excellent, if unneeded. opinions but the trip was all Brian's idea. We're taking the dogs and three weeks and crossing to CA and back. But it was his idea. I've just been self-centeredly thinking of my recovering self. Taken down by a simple belly-button-octomy, embarrassing.

Presently we've planned stops in St. Louis, Wichita, Tucumcari, Santa Fe, Monument Valley and Escalante on the way out. A few days with Ruby at the Coral Sands in Palm Springs. The way back is still a work in progress but we know we're seeing family in Phoenix and friends in Albuquerque and Cincinatti.

We're confident that both old Sophie and oozing stroke boy will make it. Cross your fingers, Justin Case.

It all starts this Saturday!

Lets go on with the show

I DO (like London)

Topping off the vacation with a picnic of Neal's Yard Cheddar,

fresh bread and very garlicy cornichon on a bench in Green Park on a sunny December day

There are coffee shops everywhere! (There is also a lot of tea and ale, but never mind). The parks have huge WELL tended plantings of flowers in Mid-December. The museums are also everywhere, spectacular AND FREE (the churches are NOT but just ignore that). The Royal presence is quite subtle. The BBC is live. People here are nice (there are a few loud drunks at night but they're walking [or attempting to] NOT driving). There are all kinds of people, all sorts, different colors, and ALL with English accents.

They all seem to really enjoy Christmas.

I Like London.

- - - David (reporting from the United Kingdom)

A Londony Christmas at last

The preparations continue. We are leaving tomorrow for Jolly Ol' London, the weeks of getting ready are about to crescendo. The suitcase is on the bed and there's actually something in it! Do you think B will notice that I've packed his Cashmere jacket?

Besides tour books, essential toiletries and that jacket, I'm packing light. I will just head straight to Harrod's for anything else I need. I am happy to live in the jeans in which I'm flying and to live on English shortbread.

I wouldn't mind a bit of Dickens. A little Oliver, a touch of Scrooge. We Americans grow up (and grow old) living in London a bit each Christmas. It may be through someone else's imagination and the accents may be staged but somehow Christmas wouldn't the same without a teeny Tiny Tim and coal on the fire.

Seeing London for ourselves (at last) should put us right in the mood for a bit of flaming pudding in Adrian.

---David

How I lived since my Summer Vacation

On SOME plane going SOMEwhere

I think I may be neglecting the blog.

Do you miss me? Probably not. You must think that I am so busy. Truth is I stay at home, tag along with Brian on trips (which tends not to be as often as I'd like), take a LONG time to do anything "normal" and practice my A.D.D. whenever possible.

Want to do a load of laundry? First I end up doing 100 other extraneous and often unnoticeable chores and somehow the clock has gone from 7 AM to 7PM, I'm exhausted and the laundry is still dirty. FML as the kids would write.

Let's see, since the trip to get the 100 year old mounted Caribou head (still not on the wall) we've
visited friends in Seattle and Chicago,
done the Equality March in DC (visiting friends there too)
had a Birthday (as have many of you)
celebrated Halloween and honored Dios de los Muertos
been on facebook so many times I think I may have an issue

I attempted to go through all the photos and update the iWeb blog but the "Genius" at the Apple store that had the iMac for 2 days (the 1st time) and charged Brian $65 (the 1st time) not only disabled the blog access (along with all sorts of other things including all my flagged email) and screwed up my iTunes, STILL didn't fix my iCal and now I can't Sync my phone. GRRRR as GinGin would "say"
So I was too frustrated and infuriated to be creative. This entry is the result.

Let's just say there are a LOT of great photos and memories of the past few months and let me know if you want more details.

- - - David